Why is he mad at me?
If he's gone quiet or short and you don't know why, the most reliable move is to ask directly and calmly. Guessing usually makes it worse. Often it's something small that he didn't say at the time, or stress from somewhere else landing on you.
Common reasons
- Something small bothered him earlier and he didn't bring it up in the moment.
- He's stressed about something unrelated, and it's leaking into how he talks to you.
- He expected something (a reply, a plan, a gesture) that didn't happen.
- He handles conflict by withdrawing first and talking later.
What to say
- “You seem off with me. Did I do something? I'd rather know than guess.”
- “I can tell something's up. Do you want space right now, or do you want to talk?”
How Saju reads it
In Saju, a Yang Fire or Yang Metal person often flares and cools quickly, while an Earth person may hold it quietly for days. Knowing which one you're dealing with tells you whether to give it an hour or ask today.
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