Why is my boss ignoring me?
Most of the time a boss who goes quiet is overloaded, unsure what you need from them, or waiting on something from their own boss. It's not rejection. Silence feels personal, but it's usually a bandwidth or clarity problem. Make your ask small, specific, and easy to answer.
Common reasons
- They're triaging: your messages don't look urgent next to theirs, so they sink.
- Your ask is open-ended ('any thoughts?') and needs thinking time they don't have.
- Something above them is unresolved: a reorg, a budget, a decision they can't share yet.
- They prefer a different channel: some bosses ignore Slack but answer a two-line email or a 1:1.
What to say
- “Can I get a yes or no on X by Thursday? If I don't hear back I'll go ahead with option A.”
- “Would a 15-minute check-in every two weeks work better for you than messages?”
How Saju reads it
In Saju terms, this often looks like a pace mismatch: a fast Fire or Wood person pinging a Metal or Earth person who processes slowly and replies only when they have a complete answer. The silence is their processing, not their verdict.
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