Why does my boyfriend never compliment me?
Lots of people feel admiration and simply don't say it out loud. Compliments may not have been part of his family's language, or he may assume you already know. It's fair to ask for words, as long as you ask for them specifically.
Common reasons
- Verbal praise wasn't normal in his family, so it doesn't occur to him.
- He assumes staying with you already says it.
- He shows appreciation in other ways, like time, effort, or plans.
- He feels awkward or cheesy saying it.
What to say
- “I know you care, but hearing it means a lot to me. Even small things like 'you look nice' land.”
- “What do you like about us? I'm curious what you'd say.”
How Saju reads it
In Saju, a Metal-dominant person tends to be sparing with praise: precise, a little reserved, and meaning it when they do say it. A Fire or Wood person often needs to hear it to feel it.
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